Talking to your spouse about a separation or divorce can often be upsetting and stressful for you both. It will be hard to discuss and resolve issues around your finances (and children if applicable) but ultimately the best way to keep the process amicable is through trying to sort out the issues together.
Collaborative law is one way you can do this. The collaborative process is about reaching and finding solutions together with the clear intention of not going to Court to resolve your differences.
It may be that you have already discussed with your spouse the idea of mediation. The difference between the collaborative process and mediation is that mediation involves an independent party, the mediator (or sometimes two mediators), who will meet with you and your spouse together enabling you to discuss your issues and hopefully draw up an agreement often referred to as a Memorandum of Understanding. The mediator is not on either party’s side and is not there to provide any legal advice but is there to simply facilitate discussion.
In collaborative law, you each have your own solicitor representing you. You will have face to face meetings, with your respective solicitors present, but with the positive intention of working together to consider and discuss all relevant issues with the objective of forming an agreement between parties. You will set the agenda as to what needs to be discussed and you can set the pace. There are no Court dates putting pressure on you, so this process can provide you all with flexibility in terms of timings.
Both parties and their solicitors sign a Participation Agreement at the beginning of the process to confirm their intention to use the collaborative process positively. Either party are prevented from starting legal proceedings until they give notice of their intention to apply to the Court to deal with their matter but this would mean that their respective solicitors would have to withdraw from acting for them. This is an important aspect to the process, intending to commit all parties (and therefore including the parties’ solicitors). This makes the collaborative process more effective in that it increases the confidence of both parties to commit to working towards an agreement rather than rushing off to Court which would often be adversarial and hostile.
Some of the benefits to collaborative law include:
- You stay in control of the process;
- You have the opportunity to negotiate and collaborate with your partner in order to do this;
- As a solicitor you can openly discuss matters in a way that can help your client make informed decisions;
- It is a dignified and respectful process when both parties wish to deal with their separation and/or divorce in the most positive way they can;
- You are trying to deal with matters fairly with the other and are offering an opportunity to take into account the other party’s concerns and can therefore deal more easily with the emotional and financial needs of your family and their specific circumstances.
The solicitors for you and your spouse will need to be collaboratively trained and you may wish to check this at the outset when researching solicitors firms if you would like to use this process. However you may wish to discuss the option of collaborative law with your spouse at the early stages.
Paul offers an initial one hour confidential fixed fee meeting for £95 including VAT. Please contact Paul directly on 0118 958 9711 or [email protected] if you would like to arrange your fixed fee meeting.